If we find ourselves in a relationship, rest assured that my main focus is your well-being. Nothing is sexier to me than a woman who lives a self-generated, empowered life and then chooses a partner from that grounded place. I'm all about you being complete on your own (as I am) and opting to have me in your life not because you need someone, but because you believe life would be more fun with an amazing guy by your side. In other words, you WANT a relationship; you don't NEED one. Unlike in Jerry Maguire, I'm not here to "Complete You."

Imagine what we could achieve together if we're both complete individuals – the possibilities are endless! I'm not on the hunt for a nice, agreeable woman; been there, done that. I'm interested in someone who can push back and kick my ass when warranted (I am sure I will thank you in the end). Both of us having done a lot of inner work is the key to a relationship so incredible, it might just blow your mind. That's what I'm want. I have had glimpses of that and I just can't settle anymore.

I'm a skilled communicator and a pro at being supportive. I'll be committed to you and the bigger picture, and I won't shy away from pointing out any inconsistencies. I've been told I can be "a lot to take at times", but I choose to see that as a compliment. My last three long-term relationships(5y / 2y / 2y) have all told me I left them better than I found them, which makes for great post-dating conversations. I expect a lot, but I also bring a lot to the table. I'm very interested in someone who has done and is doing their own work, too.

I'm not here to make you comfortable; I'm here to help you dive deep until you've had enough of your own BS to let it all go. In letting go, you'll find freedom. In finding freedom, you'll realize you were free all along and that the prison was only in your mind. Once you're free, you'll see clearly. Once you see clearly, you'll realize you are all there ever was. Once you see that you will understand that I am just the part of you that is helping you remember who you really are. This is the spiritual journey and what relationships are all about. I would ask that you return the favor :-)

So, are you ready for a relationship that's equal parts adventure, personal growth, and pure awesomeness? Let's go I am so ready for a woman I can be excited about!!

Myers Briggs: ESTJ - Extravert, Sensing, Thinking, Judging

ESTJs are outspoken, a person of principles, which are readily expressed. The ESTJ is not afraid to stand up for what he or she believes is right even in the face of overwhelming odds. ESTJs are able to make the tough calls.
In relationships, the ESTJ is dependable, responsible, and opinionated. ESTJs appreciate routine and family traditions, and want stability and security in their home life. They tend to have very structured lives and organized homes. ESTJs are decisive and strong-willed, they are sometimes impatient with their partners' feelings.
ESTJs want a relationship they can rely on, and one that helps them live out their ideals of a traditional home life.
ESTJs value a partner who appreciates their responsibility and productivity, and one who notices the ESTJ’s tangible contributions to the relationship.
ESTJs may need to work on relaxing control and opening the lines of communication.*

*Don't worry I have worked on this A LOT...and I am super good with communication...and have learned to let things go....usually :-)

Here is a short video about ESTJs
Which I think is really very accurate...so you know what you are getting into :-)
https://youtu.be/0aBLG24jCBY

Human Design:
Type: Manifestor
Profile: 5 / 1
Definition: Split Definition
Inner Authority: Emotional - Solar Plexus
Strategy: To Inform
Not-Self Theme: Anger
Incarnation Cross: Left Angle Cross of Informing (22/47 | 11/12)

Personal Development:

I've dabbled in my fair share of personal development courses and have truly reaped the benefits. At one point, I even lived in a community dedicated to applying course principles in everyday life. Think Anthony Robbins or Landmark on steroids – now, imagine living with people like that 24/7 for two years…yeah pretty hardcore. It was a great experience. I am glad I did it and I am glad I am not there now…it’s one of those things. Ultimately, it wasn't the right fit for me. It turns out that a community full of communistic/socialistic/left-leaning folks who prioritized the "greater good" over the individual. Nope not for me. A cursory look at history shows that's a recipe that for disaster. As a voluntaryist, I discovered it's just not for me.

Intentional Community Living:

I spent two years in an intentional community in California (because where else, right?). They offered a plethora of courses focused on the dynamics of male-female relationships and sensuality. I was exposed to a treasure trove of empowering insights and perspectives. Everyone should be so lucky to encounter this material! I'm super glad I did it, and I'm happy to share my thoughts and viewpoints if you're curious it really is empowering work.

Thanks to these courses (which were a blend of Tantra with Western practicality), I feel well-adjusted and have learned a lot about sensuality and the delightful differences between men and women.

Plants:

I'm not into substances that are depressants. Not an alcohol fan. I stay away from caffiene too….you would too if you read the book “Caffiene Blues” Holy cannoli Batman…no matter how you slice it caffeine is not at all good for you. I do like my plants tho! :-) The plants that help you go deeper into your journey…the useful ones. You might be familiar with M.A.P.S.? I had the honor of meeting Sasha Shulgin before he passed away and even attended his memorial service in 2014. I have immense admiration for Sasha—a true hero. I also love Ram Dass and his tales about psychology and the 60s tools for exploring consciousness. I enjoy solo plant-based transformational journeys and subscribe to Terence McKenna and Ram Dass's wisdom on the importance of intention, set, and setting when diving by yourself. I have grown a lot with the plants assistance. It’s definitely not a party thing for me. It’s serious business and I take it serious which is why I think I have had such great results.

Recently, I had an amazing experience:

I saw the universe as a dream. Consciousness is the dreamer, creating this vast reality, and just like in a dream, all the characters, objects, and elements are part of the dreamer's world. This is how we are all one—how can you separate the dreamer from the dream? I realized that there's really only me here. It's all me. Everything else is just characters in the game, so to speak. It's mind-blowing and a bit sad at first, but during this experience (repeatedly), I understood it was the truth. I think this is what Ramana Maharshi meant when he'd respond to people talking about "others" by asking, "What others?" I witnessed the creation of the universe. I was there. It was an amazing experience.

Bonus points if you've consulted with the plants and have your own insights—or if you're interested in trying it. The insights are remarkable.

I am very much an idea guy. I have an engineering degree and I am blessed (or cursed) with new ideas on a regular basis of how to make things work better or to make things that have not existed. I make friends easily and really do enjoy social activities with friends. I am fairly skilled at building and fixing things from lawn mowers to computers to airplanes. I would happily slow down for the right woman. I am at a point where I really want a relationship.
I moved to FL in 2018 from CO and I love it here. The weather is the best and there are lakes everywhere which is so perfect because I have a small (2 seat) seaplane.

My decade long dream of creating an intentional community that works is well underway. It’s all happening so fast and it is so good some days I have to pinch myself. Here is what I am doing with my 2 solid freedom minded business partners: www.voluntaria.community (Be sure to see the “Voluntaria Principles”)

If you actually got this far and you want to message me please do!
I love when women reach out first! :-)

Books:
Spiritual Enlightenment - the damnedest thing
What Really Makes You Ill
A Course In Miracles

Authors:
Alan Watts
Ram Dass
Jed McKenna
Chuck Hillig
Ken Wapnick
Nisargadatta
Ramesh Balsekar
Eckhart Tolle
Joseh Campbell
David Hawkins
J Krishnamurti
Osho

Personal Growth:
Landmark
Byron Katie
Tony Robbins
A handful of Tantra like modalities

Content Creators:
Jason Christoff
Larken Rose
Mark Passio
Kelly Brogan
Chris Williamson
Alex Hermozi